Bramell, Party of Five: It's Twin Tuesday!

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

It's Twin Tuesday!

There is something going on with the twins that has caught me off guard. I guess that I shouldn't be surprised, but I just wasn't expecting it.  It seems that they are having a hard time being together for 24 hours a day.

In talking with their daycare teachers over the past few days, I've been told they are really fighting a lot at school.  This means they are hitting, scratching, yelling and wrestling with each other.  This is standard at home, but at daycare they are usually angels. Girl Twin is being really bossy to her brother (not shocking) and his reaction has been crying at school. Yesterday, they had to be separated while eating lunch.  The teacher said that Boy Twin actually acted relieved but Bossy Pants cried about it. *snicker*

I know my kids love each other. While they really don't show affection for each other much yet, they are very aware and concerned about what the other is doing at all times.  For example, just yesterday, Boy Twin slept part of the night in our bed.  When Girl Twin woke up in her own bed, she came toddling into the kitchen to ask me, "Where Bubby?"  Another example: their teacher has told me many times that during nap time that the kids must have their cots next to each other to sleep. Girl Twin has even been known to stroke brother's hair during nap time.  See? She is sweet sometimes!

This got me thinking about how much time they have spent apart.  Aside from one running errands with me, or a couple of days at Grammy's house, I can't think of any.  That's probably how Fergie feels about eating the same dog food every day, twice a day, for the past five years.  Maybe that's why she refuses to eat sometimes.  Maybe the twins are just finding a way to refuse to play with each other.

Of course, I can't say that I'd enjoy spending 24 hours a day with anyone either, really. Well, except for Adam Levine maybe. But that's for another post, and don't tell Lee.  Except, I think he already knows.

Anyway, I'm sure that this is a common problem for twins, and probably even for siblings in general. Has anyone out there in bloggy land experienced this? Got any advice? I try to split them up for "special time" as much as I can. Sometimes I'll take one to the store and leave one at home. Or, we try to have a "girls day" and I'll just take my girls somewhere. I want them to each feel special and not resent being twins, or feel like a package deal.  This parenting stuff is hard to figure out...


  1. I am not opposed to taking one of them for a few days. It would do us ALL good! ;-) If they are apart a few days, they will likely miss each other and be happy to be back together. Think about it....

    Love to all...

  2. No advice here on parenting. But, I think feeding Adam bacon for 24 hours might be a fun way to spend some "girl time"!

  3. I had the girls for 2 nights at Christmas one year and Evan stayed at home. I am voting you send me 2 more this year!!!! And you quit being mean to my Sassy girl!!!! :)

  4. Having grown up with two sets of twin cousins, I can tell you that the two who did more apart are better off as adults than the two who did EVERYTHING together. My oldest set finish each other's sentences and everything. It's a little weird, since they're in their forties now. It has been more difficult for them, because one married while the other is now alone.


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